Submarine Full of Blood

Posted: September 6, 2012 in Uncategorized

Masculinity is not an aspect of one’s person to be particularly proud of. If nothing else, it’s a defense mechanism for the things in life that are too scary to deal with. On the one hand, it keeps you from overreacting to the small, but when something big enough happens to shake even the toughest man from his pedestal, the noted difference is enough to make the situation extremely awkward for everyone playing the role of audience. This is all, of course, in reference to masculinity as we commonly agree to understand it — not as the act of acting like a man, but the act of acting like the way we believe a man should act.

Emotional strength and emotional distance are two very different things. To say that someone who is emotionally distant is strong is like saying that somebody who refuses to lift weights is a world class bodybuilder. Just because you do your best to be above something does not mean that you have mastered it. And though we celebrate our champion stoics Brutus and Calpurnia, the truth is that when they had a legitimate crisis to deal with, logic and cooler heads may have served them, but clearly they were served poorly.


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